Okay I’m just going to come right out and say it, I am OBSESSED with my babies. Seeing the two together, witnessing this amazing sibling bond I’ve heard about for so long…it’s pretty freaking fantastic. Seriously, my love for my sweet family is as boundless as the sky, and there are no words to really describe how I feel.
But if you’re interested in how everything else is going (who doesn’t love all things baby!?), I have plenty of words for that ;) So here’s the big ticket stuff on Amelia’s first month of life:
I really hope I’m not cursing myself but I’m convinced that overdue babies are the best sleepers. Amelia has been sleeping pretty well from the start, giving us 5-6 hour stretches during the night. Of course, we’ve had our share of fairly rough nights here and there but for the most part, I can’t complain.
The first week her “schedule” was kind of all over the place, as per expected with a fresh baby, but as we got her accustomed to her days and nights, after the second week we started to get a pretty good routine in place. Well, as good of a routine that we can get in considering our current circumstances. Just like with Caleb, we start her routine around 9pm with a quick warm bath, oil her up and give her an infant massage, put on her jammies and swaddle, then give her a bottle while I hum a lullaby to her. She’s usually racked out by the time she finishes her bottle but sometimes I’ll rock her for a few more minutes just to soak in her adorableness.
And yes, I know I’m “supposed” to be teaching her how to sleep by putting her in her bassinet slightly awake, but I can’t help myself. Babies are so beautiful and so peaceful when they’re drifting off to sleep, I’m going to treasure these fleeting moments as much as I can while possible :)
Um. Baby girl can EAT. She is giving Caleb a good fight for the title of champion eater in this household. And let’s just say that in the beginning, I went through A LOT of my homemade natural nipple cream (which I’ll be sharing the recipe for sometime soon!) ;)
As for eating on a schedule, she isn’t really on one. Unless you consider eating 24/7 a schedule. I nurse her on demand (and she demands a lot haha) during the day, and then clusterfeed her during the evening hours to top her off.
At first Caleb didn’t quite understand what was going on, understandably so. After all, he was only 19 months. It took about a week for him to understand who this new squishy person was and since then it’s been hilariously heartwarming watching the two interact. He doesn’t want to hold her just yet but he shows his love in other ways :) He’ll pet her head, try to stick her paci or bottle in her mouth, cover her with his blankie, and we even caught him giving her a bo-bo (kiss in Korean). Only once though, haha. And we also caught him trying to put diaper cream in her hair too. I think Amelia is going to be one tough chick with having Caleb has her older brother ;)
Before having Amelia, I was pretty worried that he’d get jealous but that hasn’t been the case at all. The hubs and I have done a pretty good job of switching off and making sure that if one of us has the baby, the other is with the crazy toddler. And we’ve set aside separate times for both of us to have alone time with Caleb so that he still has that sense of what it was like before this new baby came in and turned his world around.
Two Under Two
I know it sounds crazy, especially with how much we have going on, but I’m starting to think that we have this “two under two” thing down. I think what has helped us the most is that we’re both pretty laid back when it comes to a lot of things and the kids have picked up on that. As a result, they’re not as high strung as you would think a toddler and a baby would be during this transition. And they’ve been through a lot together in Amelia’s first month of life. Part of me feels horrible about the timing of everything, I mean, in one month we’ve moved everything out of the only home Caleb has known, shacked up in 2 hotels, then the in-laws home, and now we’ll be living in another hotel in a new country before finally moving into our new home. We’ve also been incredibly busy throughout all this which is something I also feel so horrible about. I want so badly to get settled for the kids and for them to have a sense of normalcy again. And I really want to give them the complete, undivided attention that they deserve.
On the other hand, a part of me appreciates the timing of everything. Because we had Amelia around the time my husband cleared Fort Bragg, he was able to tie his 10 days of paternity leave with his 29 days of PCS leave (PCS leave is the time service members get off to move to their next duty station). This means that he’s been home for everything this time, and that he’s been able to help out so much as opposed to Caleb’s first year of life, when he was at Ranger School and deployed. I can’t even begin to describe just how happy I’ve been having him throughout this whole experience, he’s really amazing. I always knew he was, but seeing him with a newborn and a toddler just reaffirms everything I’ve felt before.
Anyway, I summed up life with two under two with one of my Facebook Page statuses; it’s basically just like day-to-day life with a toddler, except this time I’m wearing a baby all the time and changing twice the amount of diapers ;)
Recovery this time around was rough. With Caleb I was up and walking 10 minutes after they finished stitching me up. I was out walking 3 days later, and started easing into workouts at 2 weeks.
Because the epidural didn’t work properly, I wasn’t able to move my left leg for hours after birthing Amelia. My right side was fine as the epidural didn’t even work, but my left leg felt like a tree stuck to my body. It was the strangest feeling, and very uncomfortable. I ended up being confined to the bed for awhile and I think this played a part in delaying my overall recovery. I’m a strong believer that just getting up and moving makes a huge difference but I wasn’t able to do that this time. On top of that, my uterus hemorrhaging did quite a number on me. I bled A LOT and any little movement made it worse. I was sore for days and the contractions during nursing actually hurt this time (I didn’t feel a thing with Caleb).
On a positive note, I didn’t tear so I wasn’t in much pain at all ‘down under’ haha. I just felt the general soreness you get from pushing out a baby through a whole the size of a bagel. You know, the usual haha. TMI alert, right?
Anyway, as I type this post, I believe I’ve fully recovered and I feel human again. I’ve started working out again and my clothes are slowly starting to fit. I’m not sure how much I weigh but to be honest, it’s the least of my concerns right now with everything we have on our plate right now. Once we get settled, Operation Bangin’ Post Baby Body will commence.
Only half kidding about that ;)
File this under the list of things I never thought I’d have to deal with but Amelia is tongue tied! When she was born the baby nurse quickly noticed that she had a short frenulum. I was informed that as long as she latched okay and had a strong sucking reflex, they wouldn’t have to cut her tongue. Fortunately, she latched on right away and had a crazy strong sucking reflex, ouch! Though I’ll admit that the first 2 weeks of nursing was hard with her, in fact, I actually had to schedule an appointment with a lactation consultant just because after I got home from the hospital, I couldn’t get her to latch properly without her tearing up my poor ta-ta’s. My right breast is still recovering and I have 2 blisters, but after the three week mark, the pain went away and now we’re going strong. So here’s to another nursing journey, I absolutely love breastfeeding and the bonding time we get from it!
Amelia is so calm, and so relaxed. She surprises me with how chill she is since her big bro was much more of a high needs baby. She really only fusses when she’s hungry. When she’s gassy or wakes up at night she doesn’t even cry or whine, she just grunts like an angry football player. She’s also been insanely alert since they first put her on my chest at birth, and she has amazing head control in spite of how big her head is. She loves to watch Caleb, her head will follow him wherever he goes and if shes in the middle of fussing, if she sees or hear Caleb she’ll actually pause to watch and listen to him. It’s amazing to watch and both the hubs and I always look at each other to make sure one of us doesn’t miss the moment, haha.
She smiles A LOT. And they’re not just gas induced smiles. We can easily get her to smile by blowing raspberries or if she hears her daddy’s voice, we’ll get a smile without fail. And her smiles are infectious, just like Calebs, they go from ear to ear and her eyes turn into little crescent shaped moons. We just can’t help but gush and smile with her.
And seriously, how fun are little girl clothes!? I have totally become one of those “girly” moms now and am having so much fun dressing her up! I’ve even got a matching jean jacket, a matching bomber leather jacket, and some sparkle Chucks for us to match later. I know, I’m ridiculous. But I love every second of it and can’t wait to have even more fun with dressing her up, haha.
Do these pictures melt your heart or melt your heart?! I can’t get over her cheeks, her almond shaped eyes, her spiky hair, button nose, and that mischievous smirk that reminds of Caleb’s. Her face just makes me swoon with so much joy and pride.
And that’s all I have for now on her first month of life! Years from now I’ll look back on this and probably cry because it went by so fast. But one of the perks of blogging is that I’ll always have this to look back and reflect on how crazy and wonderful this month was. We went through a lot in July and if it weren’t for Amelia, we would not have had gone through it without as much joy as we had. Newborns are so special and they can make any busy, sleep deprived parents feel like they’re in heaven. And that’s exactly how she makes us feel. She brings us even more light and happiness. We love you so much baby girl!
We’re hoppin on our plane to Germany tonight so wish us luck! Guten Tag, friends ;)
Psst: Just for fun, here is big bro’s 1 month update.